As I write this we are approaching a major holiday season. Holidays are not always happy and hopeful. For some, holiday seasons come with unbearable pain and sadness due to the loss of a loved one by suicide. I am honored to be able to share this book with you from a gifted author who happens to know what she is writing about from both her unfortunate personal experience and professional knowledge.
If you have been impacted by the loss of a loved one due to suicide or know someone who has, I urge you to pick up this book, The Gift of Second: Healing from the Impact of SUICIDE, by Brandy Lidbeck. It is written with a “me too” heart for those who are hurting from suicide loss.
Suicide loss is something that not everyone, even myself, can fully understand or relate to unless we’ve been impacted by it – and Brandy Lidbeck has.
Brandy Lidbeck is a licensed marriage and family therapist, as well as a two-time survivor of suicide loss. She is the founder of thegiftofsecond.com, a website created for suicide loss survivors. Brandy has a heart for those who know the pain suicide brings and wants all survivors to experience healing in spite of the sorrow.” The Gift of Second
While this book is for a specific audience and may not be for everyone, it could be immeasurably comforting for those whom it was written for.
“As a suicide loss survivor, this is a must read. This book will be my go-to guide for many years to come. A brilliant piece of work! The author was able to take a tough subject and turn it into a compassionate read that I will recommend to all of my colleagues and fellow suicide loss survivors.” ~Jennifer Cagle Huffman, CEO of Survivors of Loved Ones to Suicide, Inc. (SLOS) and suicide survivor
Lidbeck discusses the path of grief for a suicide loss survivor as well as how guilt and shame can deal a nasty hand in the work of healing. She offers real life, day to day coping techniques, navigates the topic of forgiveness, self-care and the part the God plays in all of this pain.
The author touches on the effects of specifically losing a child, parent, spouse/partner, sibling and a friend due to suicide. I found it comforting that Brandy Lidbeck offers the reader pages loaded with helpful information without feeling the need to include specific suicide stories. Because everyone’s suicide loss is different and very personal, she says, “I wanted to write a book that would be safe for all readers. There are no triggering details or graphic elements in this book.” I believe Lidbeck has given the griever a gift in doing this. At the end of each chapter she offers questions for the reader to delve in deeper to their own thoughts and emotions regarding their loss. Questions from her experience that she knows to ask that a suicide loss survivor might not even think to ask.
Suicide is a monumental tragedy and while we all wish it wasn’t something we’d ever have to encounter, we can count on The Gift of Second to offer hope and healing for someone who has been impacted by it. Maybe this book wouldn’t make your Christmas wish list but it is a gift all the same – to you or to someone you know. I feel that this book would be helpful for a suicide loss survivor and even a friend of a survivor. While I haven’t been impacted by suicide personally (of which I am humbly grateful), I gleaned valuable information that could help me in understanding and hopefully bringing comfort to a friend who has.
I haven’t done extensive research to see what resources are available for suicide loss survivors but I believe this book to come from a unique, heartfelt and educated perspective. It is the authors hope that no one walk this journey alone.
Join Brandy Lidbeck in giving The Gift of Second to a suicide loss survivor. It is available on Amazon in Kindle and paperback formats.
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